Thoughts in motion

Hello readers,

I hope you all had a great week. It’s been a week since I last wrote and I know a good deal of you must have missed my blog. I do apologize to those who came but found no content to read. Last week came with its own set of lessons and all I can say is I am grateful.

My partner and I had a road trip right after a festival of chariot and even though we have done the same route many times before, this time the challenges were different. I  have learnt so much in the last week that I feel obliged to share it with all of you. To be honest, sometimes we may be in a very trying situation with a lot of learning opportunities but if we fail to immerse ourselves into the experience given, we will not be able to fully grasp the message being conveyed.

In the face of disappointment, we are quick to judge, blame, and even give up. This is what I refer to as the “reactionary attitude”. Something goes bad, we act accordingly. There is no time for reflection, or time for us to evaluate the situation and then come up with a strategy. Over the weekend I can remember being in a situation whereby my partner and I had some not so good feedback and in the moment because I was carried away by her disposition to the situation, I also lost track of mine. My thinking ability had temporarily shut down and I was at the mercy of my subconscious memory. I was going through the physical motions of moving but my mind and heart were not in proper unison.

Another scenario had presented where I needed to exercise tranquility and remove myself from whatever was happening. I had being able to control my emotions and not act on impulse and the end results was great. It goes without saying that to whom much is given much is expected. Anytime we fall short in a situation we need to ask ourselves; are we utilizing all the resources we have in order to win this war over matter and the mind. It seems to me that we are in a constant tussle between matter and spirit. At some point we are in tune with our energies and spirit is in control, and at other times we allow our base tendencies to take over.

The struggle is real as a common phrase goes. We have to daily make choices that all add up into weekly choices, monthly choices, yearly choices and lifetime choices. We are a sum and substance of all the choices we have made over time in our lives. Whether we agree to this fact or not, it is a bitter pill to swallow. How do we convince someone going through a difficult time that they are in that situation due to choices they have made. The truth is we don’t. A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion and as such most people learn by repeated and failed experience. There is the popular phrase “experience is the best teacher”. I used to quote that a lot as a teenager and once my Dad said to me “not in every case. In some cases only fools learn by experience. A first class human being (or intelligent person) learns by hearing from authorities on a subject matter or by the experience of others.”

I have always reflected on his phrase. There are some things I have been through a couple times and I ask myself; am I being a first class human in this situation or a third class human being. (This is someone who even though he has lived an experience still doesn’t learn and repeats the same mistake). There are other times when I have an experience once and I vow to myself never again to relive it. In effect what am I saying; life does get to us most of the time. The other part when we think we are outsmarting life, it is just a break. I don’t want to sound pessimistic or come off as one dealing with issues, I just wanted to share these random thoughts that were circulating in my head.

Another good analogy for life and its distractions is; travelling on the highway. When we travel interstate, we pass many exits. Each exit has its own attraction; food, gas, hotel, etc. However we do not get off at every exit. We keep driving until we need to either rest, refuel or eat. We won’t be able to arrive at our destination if we took every exit we saw. In fact we would never begin the journey if we took the very first exit that we saw. This will take us totally off track and if somehow or the other we got back on track and took another exit again, we would be off track again. In essence what I am trying to say is, it is always handy to have focus and direction in life. This becomes like a compass for us.

There will be times when we might need to pull over from the journey of life to take a quick break but we wont be off track. We still have the goal and our GPS will be our values. They will point us in the direction we feel is most important to us. Just like the regular GPS, it is just a guide to get us to our destination. Our values will always be our GPS, if someone is morally bankrupt or deficient then we can compare that to a GPS that is not up to date. If we hold others to our own values, we will be compared to someone who wants other drivers to follow his own GPS. Everyone has their own journey, we may journey together for a while but never entirely together.

After all said and done, we want to be able to look back and be grateful for the gift of life, the gift of good health, and the gift of basic amenities that we take for granted. To those who wake up everyday with the zeal of a hunting Lion, I say all the best and see you all at work on Monday.

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Milestones

Hello!

It’s a pleasure being able to share with you all yet another blog this week. Last week came with its own unique lessons and experiences and I am grateful because we either win or learn. As we learn we grow better and our experiences help us create new paths in life. I’ll like to apologize for being two days late on my post, I have no excuses. work has been taking most of my time nevertheless I’ll try my best to be regular.

This week I’ll like to harp on milestones in life and achievements generally. Over the weekend I was at the graduation ceremony of a god-sister and there was a lot of wonderful moments that occurred. Family and friends were there to support and cheer her on and as expected a lot of words of advice and encouragement was shared too. At that moment during the little party, we had in her honor I took down a few mental notes which I am now expounding. Milestones in life are a great thing to look forward to as they help us keep the goal in focus. They also help us see how far we have come and how far we need to go. So let’s say someone has the goal of becoming a Doctor when they do achieve it, it becomes a milestone in their life. As beautiful as milestones can be we need to remember that if we focus too much on the goal, we miss the experience.

In as much as the milestone is important the experiences we gather on the way is what makes the journey special and not so much the destination. So using the same example, our experience from elementary school to high school to college will be the life changer we have to go through. Getting the degree that says we are now certified to be a medical practitioner is for sure a great moment however it is the years of study, exams, pain, tears, frustration, friends, adversary, etc that we gather from elementary school to college that makes the milestone a huge one. When we look back and see how far we have come and all those who have supported us in one way or another and how much they have invested in us, we really appreciate the milestone in a better way.

The second part of achieving milestones in life is the stage of actually utilizing them as tools. So in the case of my god-sister, now she has to go into the work field and secure a job and then put herself in a space where she can practice. This is the part where everyone gave words of advice and encouragement. We all know that once we have achieved a huge milestone in life, we have done but one part of a series of events. So as with the example above, now we have to secure a job and become efficient at it. In that field and space, we will have a different set of experiences, a different set of friends, goals, objectives and all these interplays in ways that help us either grow or regress. During our schooling years, we choose an association that helps us become better students and help us get better grades, similarly in the second phase of work we have to choose an association that inspires us to become better and more efficient at what we do at work.

Moreso, as we continue to devote ourselves to achieving various milestones in life we need to ask ourselves if the “why” is great enough to see us through. The “why” behind our milestones enable us to pay attention to the experience in the journey rather than being too centered on the end product. In the after party of my god-sister, there were a few pieces of advice that kept resonating with me and I felt I should share them here. No matter the of milestone we are trying to achieve we must remember that we cannot achieve them “alone”. No man is an island! Whenever we think we have achieved anything alone we must remember that there are many people who have devoted their time and sacrificed things to help us get to where we are on our journey. We need to be grateful for them and always remember that to go fast in life one should journey alone but to go far one should journey in good company.

Second, whenever we are faced with challenges from life or the world generally and we seem to doubt our own judgment, we should always remember that words of elders are words of wisdom. Our current generation has very little to no regard for older folks and often times refer to them as being “old school” or not in “vogue”. What we fail to understand is that the years of experience that our elders have is priceless. To be able to tap into that wealth of knowledge is a fortune we should never take for granted.

Third, hard work will do the work but it should never substitute our higher self. What do I mean? I know some of my readers may not believe in God and I feel everyone is entitled to their opinion. Nonetheless, the spirit is always superior to matter and thus if all we do and our milestones are just to help us satisfy our basic materialistic tendencies then we lose sight of being able to connect on a deeper level. When Matter is the focus, then a building is nothing but brick and mortar. When Spirit is added, it could be a house of prayer, communion, fellowship or a home. Similarly when our objectives and milestones are subject to only material timelines then we fail to see the experience from a holistic perspective.

Finally, as we strive to set, reach or even achieve more milestones we should take time out to reconnect with ourselves. Goals and milestones that are not in sync with who we really are, will eventually frustrate us. These are a few realizations I felt I should share with you all from my weekend experience. I hope it helps someone out there.

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