Thoughts in motion

Hello readers,

I hope you all had a great week. It’s been a week since I last wrote and I know a good deal of you must have missed my blog. I do apologize to those who came but found no content to read. Last week came with its own set of lessons and all I can say is I am grateful.

My partner and I had a road trip right after a festival of chariot and even though we have done the same route many times before, this time the challenges were different. I  have learnt so much in the last week that I feel obliged to share it with all of you. To be honest, sometimes we may be in a very trying situation with a lot of learning opportunities but if we fail to immerse ourselves into the experience given, we will not be able to fully grasp the message being conveyed.

In the face of disappointment, we are quick to judge, blame, and even give up. This is what I refer to as the “reactionary attitude”. Something goes bad, we act accordingly. There is no time for reflection, or time for us to evaluate the situation and then come up with a strategy. Over the weekend I can remember being in a situation whereby my partner and I had some not so good feedback and in the moment because I was carried away by her disposition to the situation, I also lost track of mine. My thinking ability had temporarily shut down and I was at the mercy of my subconscious memory. I was going through the physical motions of moving but my mind and heart were not in proper unison.

Another scenario had presented where I needed to exercise tranquility and remove myself from whatever was happening. I had being able to control my emotions and not act on impulse and the end results was great. It goes without saying that to whom much is given much is expected. Anytime we fall short in a situation we need to ask ourselves; are we utilizing all the resources we have in order to win this war over matter and the mind. It seems to me that we are in a constant tussle between matter and spirit. At some point we are in tune with our energies and spirit is in control, and at other times we allow our base tendencies to take over.

The struggle is real as a common phrase goes. We have to daily make choices that all add up into weekly choices, monthly choices, yearly choices and lifetime choices. We are a sum and substance of all the choices we have made over time in our lives. Whether we agree to this fact or not, it is a bitter pill to swallow. How do we convince someone going through a difficult time that they are in that situation due to choices they have made. The truth is we don’t. A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion and as such most people learn by repeated and failed experience. There is the popular phrase “experience is the best teacher”. I used to quote that a lot as a teenager and once my Dad said to me “not in every case. In some cases only fools learn by experience. A first class human being (or intelligent person) learns by hearing from authorities on a subject matter or by the experience of others.”

I have always reflected on his phrase. There are some things I have been through a couple times and I ask myself; am I being a first class human in this situation or a third class human being. (This is someone who even though he has lived an experience still doesn’t learn and repeats the same mistake). There are other times when I have an experience once and I vow to myself never again to relive it. In effect what am I saying; life does get to us most of the time. The other part when we think we are outsmarting life, it is just a break. I don’t want to sound pessimistic or come off as one dealing with issues, I just wanted to share these random thoughts that were circulating in my head.

Another good analogy for life and its distractions is; travelling on the highway. When we travel interstate, we pass many exits. Each exit has its own attraction; food, gas, hotel, etc. However we do not get off at every exit. We keep driving until we need to either rest, refuel or eat. We won’t be able to arrive at our destination if we took every exit we saw. In fact we would never begin the journey if we took the very first exit that we saw. This will take us totally off track and if somehow or the other we got back on track and took another exit again, we would be off track again. In essence what I am trying to say is, it is always handy to have focus and direction in life. This becomes like a compass for us.

There will be times when we might need to pull over from the journey of life to take a quick break but we wont be off track. We still have the goal and our GPS will be our values. They will point us in the direction we feel is most important to us. Just like the regular GPS, it is just a guide to get us to our destination. Our values will always be our GPS, if someone is morally bankrupt or deficient then we can compare that to a GPS that is not up to date. If we hold others to our own values, we will be compared to someone who wants other drivers to follow his own GPS. Everyone has their own journey, we may journey together for a while but never entirely together.

After all said and done, we want to be able to look back and be grateful for the gift of life, the gift of good health, and the gift of basic amenities that we take for granted. To those who wake up everyday with the zeal of a hunting Lion, I say all the best and see you all at work on Monday.

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Passion meets Dedication

Hello readers,

I hope you all are having a great holiday today. Happy Memorial day! I’ll like to use this medium to say that we are grateful to all those who lost their lives while serving this country. To serve one’s country is a noble deed, however when one dies serving it is indeed honorable. Every society has four classes of Men and the Administrative class includes the Military; so they are are a very important part of the society. For there to be a balance in a society these four classes have to be present and aware of their responsibilities. Those who are in the Administrative order have to protect and run the society, the Priestly class give direction to the Administrative class and help them remain focused by teaching them to be virtuous, the Mercantile class are those who engage in business and they are in charge of commerce, and last but not least are the working class who support all other three classes.

Not everyone is cut out to be a Military officer because not only does it require certain physical attributes but also the mindset of a warrior. A lot of people would love to serve the country in that way however their physical conditioning usually does not allow them to do so. Hence it is very commendable when we get those who have both the willingness and the physical ability to serve the nation in that capacity. In the same light, my blog today sort of streams of the same perspective, and I just wanted to shed some light on the correlation between passion and dedication. Many people have something they are passionate about and they will swear it is all they want to do or have. However when it comes to making the necessary adjustments then they fall short.

We may have seen this at some point in time in our lives or even been in that situation where we say we want to do something but lack the discipline to follow it through. So the question usually is why? To be honest, there isn’t one clear cut answer for this question. However, if there is one we can harp on today it will be the factor of dedication. When dedication meets passion then success is achievable, just like when opportunity meets preparation success is guaranteed. Dedication to our craft, job, work, or talent goes beyond the externals of it. It is one thing to say we are dedicated to something we hold dear but it is another thing when we are actually dedicated. I usually say that when we are truly dedicated to our passion, we don’t have to tell people we are dedicated, people will tell others that we are dedicated.

For one to be successful at any passion, the level of dedication has to rise through certain levels; from ordinary to a level of obsession. Those who truly succeed at any endeavor become somewhat “obsessed” about it. They see nothing but that passion, they “eat it, sleep it, dream it, do it, until they achieve it”. That is why I say it is a stage of obsession. In all fairness, if you are not at the point where “all” you think about is your passion, then permit me to say your dedication to it is partial. I know many people will beg to differ and ask me where does “balance” come in if one is operating at that level. Well, my response is that when we are trying to achieve or pursue a passion, we are not in balance initially. This is due to the fact that we are trying to achieve or do something that is an integral part of us hence we are passionate about it. So how can we truly be “balanced or equipoised” when an integral part of our balance is not met yet?

Sounds a little confusing right? Allow me to illustrate with an example; say you are hungry and you crave Pasta. You can very well eat any other type of food and it will satiate your hunger but the craving for pasta will always be there and until you have pasta that craving won’t be satisfied. So, in this case, pasta is the “passion” while trying to make, cook or get pasta is the dedication. When we eat something else in the interim while we can’t get pasta, that may seem like “balance” because it does address a need which is the fact that we are no longer hungry, however, we are still “hungry for pasta”, so the satisfaction or “balance” is only part. Unfortunately, this is what most of us do! We can’t get pasta so we lose our dedication to it.

Yes, sometimes we may not be able to get pasta, so in life, we improvise and try spaghetti instead. The idea is that if we run up on a wall on the way to fulfilling our passion, we don’t change the goal we adapt and change the route to getting there. When we are able to find alternative routes just like a GPS does when we take the wrong turn then we are dedicated to our passion. In fact, speaking of GPS I am yet to see a GPS shut down just because the driver took a wrong turn. As soon as it notices you are off track, it immediately reroutes and tries to get you to your destination no matter how long it might take. In some cases, it will even show you a few options of routes that are quicker. Now if we could all take a leaf from the GPS and try to apply the same energy and strategy to our passions, we will achieve a lot more than we can imagine.

If at the end of the day all this sounds too confusing to note then please remember theses; focus on your passion, give it time, don’t lose focus, change the route not the goal, dedicate yourself so much so that you don’t need to tell people about your passion because just by seeing you or being around you, they can tell.

Hope this helps someone redefine their dedication. Happy Memorial Day!

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